Life Is Wasted – Waiting

Man With Luggage Bag on Train Station
Waiting for the right job. Waiting for the perfect relationship. Waiting for the ideal weather. Andjust waiting for the right email or text response.
Ever waited for something and in hindsight understood how much time was wasted? I know I have and I know the pain of not being able to recapture those lost minutes, weeks or even years – they were gone forever. However, it is not my aim to be morbid here but to indicate some creative, optimistic and even risky ideas on what lies ahead, what’s real, what you can control and what can or will elude you no matter how hard you try or how long you wait.
To start with, there are three types of waiting – waiting for something to begin, waiting for something to end, or waiting for something to improve, change or perhaps even recuperate.
But irrespective of the waiting or what we might be awaiting the consequences are always the same – frustration, disappointment, sorrow, fear, and even anger and yes, even more, depending on the magnitude or significance of what we are waiting for.
Waiting for Mr. or Ms. right until you are in your seventies isn’t a wise move. Waiting for the ideal career position after bouncing from job to job for twenty years might get in the way of the right one showing up. Waiting years for a bad relationship to end or to the other person to finish it when you both know it is not or was not meant to be or was not a wise decision you previously made can cause a lot of stress, resentment, and bitterness. Waiting for your children to finally get the concept of responsibility? Waiting for your workers to eventually have some respect, loyalty or motivation?
Waiting till you retire for the holiday of a lifetime? And then your partner dies before you get to go.
Waiting for decades to get a promotion, recognition or raise – well perhaps it’s time for a change. Waiting to really live and have fun until you win the lottery, well, you may want to re-think your life purpose. Waiting weeks or even months for the correct client or client to appear – well you might want to rethink your sales or marketing strategies.
Having said all of the above I want to be clear that I am not against waiting – for the right reasons, for the appropriate amount of time or for the right, best or appropriate results.
Are there common emotions, expectations or attitudes that can contribute to a waiting mindset? From my experience, I believe there are ten significant ones; hope, fear, want, insecurity, self-esteem, ego needs, impatience, the need for control, dreams and or arrogance. I don’t have time and I’m sure that you don’t either for me to dig into each of them in detail so let me see if I can provide you some summary points to consider if you’ve been guilty of unnecessary waiting,’re waiting for something today or will, notice I said will and not may, wait for something in the future.
2) fear – or the willingness to face reality, uncertainty or unknowns in a frequent sense or reality-based way. 3) Ego – or an unhealthy definition of what you feel you deserve, you are worth, you’re worthy of or you do not deserve.
In the long run, waiting in most situations is life wasted. The present lifespan average of Americans is 77.3 decades. So, irrespective of your age whether you’re wasting days, weeks, months or years, in the long run, will give you memories of regret, resentment, apathy and or disappointment.
Is it worthwhile? Was it worth it? For me, looking back, sometimes it had been, and, in most cases, it wasn’t, but that’s me.
Here are some things to take into account if you’re a”waiter”.
-Create a list of potential gains and losses for whatever you are waiting for. Then weigh them appropriately for both the long and short term.
You don’t have to follow it, but it might help you make better decisions.
-Start a decision journal and start keeping track of every decision you have made and their results or consequences and I am not referring here to where you decide to go to lunch or what color dress to buy.
-Meditate on all major decisions and listen to your inner guidance system’s or spirit’s suggestions or inclinations or anything you want to call it.
-Maintain a list of all significant life decisions and their eventual outcomes – if and when they finished; like a business, career, job or relationship.
-Don’t make decisions or take action while under stress or psychological unrest.
-Learn to learn from everything irrespective of the outcome whether negative or positive.
-Declare psychological endings before beginning new beginnings.
-Pray about it.

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