What Is Not Self-Esteem Posted byadmin December 26, 2018 Leave a comment on What Is Not Self-Esteem Self-esteem is the way we evaluate ourselves; it is the way we perceive our value in the world and just how much importance we think we have for others. Self-esteem influences our trust in others, in our relationships, and work; practically in almost every facet of our life. Favorable self-esteem gives us the flexibility and strength to take charge of our lives and grow from our mistakes, without the fear of rejection. Here are some external signs of positive self-esteem. Trust, clarity of direction, non-blaming behaviour, awareness of personal strengths, the ability to make mistakes and learn from these, the ability to take the mistakes of others, optimism, the ability to solve problems, an independent and cooperative attitude, feeling comfortable with a wide range of emotions, the ability to trust others, a good sense of personal limits, Decent self-care, the ability to say no What’s low self-esteem? People with low self-esteem feel unworthy, incapable and incompetent and since they’re so ill with themselves, the majority of the time input a downward spiral that feeds negativity to feed on it, to the point of forgetting that one can also live well. Here are some signs of low self-esteem. A negative vision of life, a perfectionist attitude, be wary of others even those who show signs of affection, blaming behaviour, fear of taking risks, feeling of not being loved and lovable, addiction, letting others make decisions, fear of being ridiculed. How to increase low self-esteem? Feelings of low self-esteem often collect in the course of a person’s life and forego such deep-rooted crystallization is a difficult task that needs time, effort, and even professional assistance. There are, however, before getting to the last step, some easy, positive thinking methods which can be used to help enhance a person’s own self-esteem. These are known as affirmations and are utilised to stop negative internal dialogue in a simple and constructive way. The affirmations are encouraging messages that we give to ourselves every day until they become part of our feelings, beliefs, and internal dialogue. The statements work best when we are in a relaxed state, but because when we give negative messages we’re often in agitation, it is necessary to immediately counteract them with positive ones, where we are and whatever we’re doing. For example, replace the message: I made a stupid mistake and I’m bad at this job or game, with, OK, I made a mistake, but I heard from it and now I can do a much better job or play. These statements help us to work towards a positive picture of us: I respect myself and respect others, I am a lovable and nice person, I trust and it shows, I am counting on me, I make loving and wholesome relationships, I’m a nice person to have as a friend, I accept myself as I am, I believe big, I love myself, life is beautiful and I enjoy being a part of it. It is enough just to believe in it, keep the positive intent and radiate it. It’s simple and even when we fall back into the old habit every now and then, it is sufficient to leave it from time to time faster, until it becomes a distant memory which we no longer remember that once belonged to us and we are happy. It is not just easy, it’s evident, and the obvious, we know, is unbeatable.